How do you think this affects the views of women equality? Would you consider this a form of spousal abuse? And lastly try to flip the script and imagine if it were the wife that had been partying and not contributing, what social norms will be broken? Feel free to let me know, so comment below!
Thursday, 22 May 2014
Woman Charges Husband $66 Every Time For Sex
It's pretty funny how certain things unfold within a relationship... let's take a look at this video for example!
Although this is a hilarious parody of what really, the main idea is there. Essentially, a man was charged $66 every time for sexual pleasures from his wife. The reasoning behind this stems from the husband, Chen, spending most of his fiscal income away from his family and blew all of his money on other priorities. This, in turn, created a brief family issue which resulted in court with Chen having to pay a $660 monthly fee in order to insure that he is contribution as much as his full time working significant other.
How do you think this affects the views of women equality? Would you consider this a form of spousal abuse? And lastly try to flip the script and imagine if it were the wife that had been partying and not contributing, what social norms will be broken? Feel free to let me know, so comment below!
How do you think this affects the views of women equality? Would you consider this a form of spousal abuse? And lastly try to flip the script and imagine if it were the wife that had been partying and not contributing, what social norms will be broken? Feel free to let me know, so comment below!
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This is a unconventional way of getting your husband to contribute, but if thought of or perceived in the wrong way can negatively affect both partners. This decision by the wife to do this could have resulted in a separation or divorce if Chen didn't co-operate with her.
ReplyDeleteWell the really surprising factor to keep in mind was that it took a constant charge for sex as well as involvement in court to draw Chen's attention towards the family. With this in mind, it could already be said that this family was never going to work out in the first place. Further more, we do not know the full details as of how this issue came about, nor do we know about the full dynamic of this family itself. This may be the first time where such a thing has happened, but this could also be a sign of the family have constant troubles as well. We could only be presumptuous and assume certain things.
DeleteI would have to agree with Orlando, that this method is very unfamiliar. I feel that the women resulted to this option as a last resort to get her husband to contribute. I don't find this an issue of women equality though because this is between the husband and wife. I also do not consider this method to be spousal abuse. From what it seems to me, it is unfair that she is charging him for sex, but if he control himself then he would not have to pay. I truthfully think this relationship is unhealthy, because Chen not agreeing to her demands could, as Orlando stated, end up to them being divorced. The fact that she put a price on that, means that she's only doing it for the money.
ReplyDeleteI do not think this issue has an impact regarding women or men, I think this is just a situation where the man is not taking responsibility for his family, while the mother is.
The fact the his wife his having him pay to take a shower is was worries me. If the relationship and the situation have come to the point where showers need to be charged for then i think this is a very unhealthy relationship. I believe if it has come to such measures that it would be best for them to get a divorce. This situation looks like it involves a lot of arguing and if there are children in the situation then it's a very bad environment for them to be living in . Also by issuing a divorce, child support payments could be made (assuming this is happening in North America, due to lack of information).
ReplyDeleteAlso I believe that this situation doesn't reflect any inequalities at all. In my opinion this is just a case in which a parent is not caring for their family. Also I believe that if the script was switched no social norms would be broken. Sadly, many parents in the world sometimes neglect their families and children. Mothers and fathers are guilty of this, so in my opinion this is, for this situation, the norm.
To me, this does not seem like an issue with equality at all, because if the roles were switched I don't think there would be much difference in the outcome. Also, even though this approach does seem unorthodox, it did prove effective. So, all things considered, how would the outcome change if this happened in North America? Would the outcome change or stay the same?
ReplyDeleteWould you consider this a form of spousal abuse?
ReplyDeleteNo, I do not think this is a spousal abuse like you said the main idea here is that she wants her husband to pitch in more. I can understand, she does most of the work around the house (maybe she even has a job) and having no help from your husband has enraged her. I for one would hate it if my husband sat around and went partying but had no contribution to house work however, this is outrages. Charging him to take a shower and eat is ridiculous. However, the norm here is that "Men work and come home to freshly cooked dinner, clean laundry, and a comfy couch to lay on for the rest of the night etc. I personally think instead of him having to give this monthly $660 fee because this is outrages, you shouldn't have to pay to take a shower, they should talk things out.
Try to flip the script and imagine if it were the wife that had been partying and not contributing, what social norms will be broken?
As I've mentioned, The norm here is that women cook, clean, wash the dishes, do the laundry, and all the other house work, if the man was to stay at home and do these chores than he would be going against the idea that men are the ones who support he family by working. This is a video that gives a couples point of views of what men and women's role in society is. It is a 4 minute video " https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JswtsvtkQB4 "
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ReplyDeleteI'm personally baffled by the extent to which this woman went in order to have her husband be a contributing member of the family. Honestly , I think the husband need s to pick up the slack because his wife did not force him to have children and marry her. He did it himself and so he should take his responsibilities much more seriously because there are like Arsema said children involved in the situation. Personally I think an environment where a grown man is being paid to do things he should already being doing like sleeping and as showering is completely stupid. If I was put in a situation like this I think divorce would be the best way out because I will in no way pay for someone to live their life.For me I don't believe this has anything to do with woman's equality because he has not violated any of her rights because she's a female; I think he just a really lazy human being that needs to be woken up from whatever version of reality he's currently in.
ReplyDeleteI could not see whether the producer behind this video made this as a parody, or if they wanted to give more awareness for men to help around the house more. The fact that the husband has to pay to shower, and have a chat with is wife is quite astonishing. I agree with everyone else, about this not being about women's equity. I think this is more of a husband and wife situation, and just like Fatima said, it is more about the husband being lazy. The equality rights were not discriminated because he did not discriminate her as a female, he is just a lazy human being who sets everything aside for his wife to do. This further said, I think this is not violated as spousal abuse. Also, as for the wife who wants to charge her husband for everything, I think that is a bit over the top. I do agree with the fact that women should NOT be house wives, and should NOT always be at home doing house work.
ReplyDeleteI think this 45 second video talks about many things. It talks about a father who should be supporting his family but he has chosen to neglect the needs of his family so that he can blow his money on other things. This video also talks about a mother who basically has to sell her vagina to her husband in order for him to contribute to his family. This whole scenario in general just sounds so stupid. The mother should never have to stoop so low for her husband to take on the responsibility of being a father! This actually bothered me because in order for Chen to start contributing the mother basically had to sell her self. As a female I don't think that is necessary. Sex is something that is overrated in society, selling sex is also an issue in society. So basically this video is telling me that this man rather pay for sex then support his family? I just don't understand where his mind actually is at, I'm actually confused. As a growing society we want our women to stop feeling as if they can sell their body! Our body is out temple and it is not worth the value of money. I just feel a little disrespected that it took the wife to do such things to get her husband to step up.
ReplyDeleteAs a response to the person who wrote this blog (I assume its Kent), you said if the roles were switched. Generally people wouldn't be surprised that a man would neglect his family, but if it was a mother people would thing something of it. Nothing surprises me, there is no norm for family neglect, you just hear about men neglecting their families more often than women. So one shouldn't be surprised if it was the mother rather than the father because that's placing false gender norms upon a certain gender.
okay this is bloody hilarious matey! A woman charges is husband however is not fair, every man deserves to be fidoddled by his wife for free, this is spousal abuse! The man may be spending his money outside the family is a problem that CAN be fixed without charging your husband for SEX. the wife could've at least been like 'hey if you don't stop spending money outside the family, i wont have sex with you anymore' this trick works on every man. but in all seriousness though, the husband should be pleasing his own wife by spending it inside the home and should be providing for the entire family. it is his fault his wife is doing this.
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